Singlism is a hot topic. Things are not going to change if the topic is not being discussed. There is a very good chance that people around us do not even know that singlism is an issue to begin with. It is up to us to open up that dialogue and get the communication lines flowing.

A couple of things need to happen if we ever even want to see some momentum going our way. The first of which is exposure. Find an article and ask someone what they think about it. This will then create a dialogue. Once enough people are aware of the issue we can then formulate a plan to bring the discussion to a more formal setting like that of unit CO2 Training.

Here is something to get the creative juices flowing:

Bella DePaulo wrote a great book titled, “Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After.” On page 219 of that book she specifically addresses the military. Here are some quotes from the book:

“Since World War I married service members have been paid more than single members at the same rank. This disparity has grown over time, and by 2006 had reached an average advantage to married members of 25 percent” (DePaulo 219).

“…your married friends can head home to a whole different place, where they can have some privacy and space for their dirt bikes, your workplace is your home. Whereas married soldiers with the same rank as you may be able to build up equity in a house, you get to tend to your little room and keep it in tip-top shape to it will pass inspections, some of which are unannounced” (DePaulo 220).

“The lower pay, the stingier benefits, and the third-rate housing, together with the command team culture and the ‘up or out’ ethic, sends a clear message to single soldiers. Get married or get out” (DePaulo 220).

Just to give credit where credit is due, Bella DePaulo is the very person responsible for coining the term “singlism.”